She was at the dinner table. Fork in hand. Nodding at the right moments. But inside? She was three days ahead — running the list, managing the room, tracking everyone else’s needs while her own life passed through her hands.
She was in the room. But she wasn’t IN the room.
If you’ve ever felt that quiet ache — the sense that you’re showing up to your own life and somehow missing it — this episode is for you. Dr. Phyllis teaches that presence is a skill, not a personality trait, and that the retraining back to your own life is already built into your body: your five senses.
You’ll learn the Five-Senses Landing Scan — a simple, daily practice of one sense, one pause, one second where you stop performing your life and actually feel it. No retreat required. No hour of meditation. Just one deliberate moment a day where you choose to be in the room you’re already standing in.
This week’s reflection:
Am I truly present in the room I’m in, or is my mind already somewhere else?
In this episode:
(1:06) Being in the room but missing the moment
(3:11) Why mental absence is not a character flaw
(4:40) Presence is a skill you can relearn
(6:04) Using the five senses to return to the present
(7:20) What Dr. Phyllis calls a “landing moment”
(10:15) Handling grief over missed moments
(11:37) “Cease striving” and Psalm 46:10
(12:50) Lessons from Mary and Martha
(15:01) The five-sense landing practice
(18:20) Why it is never too late to land
(19:40) Free guide: What’s Yours to Carry and What Isn’t?
Your next step is already waiting: a guide called What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t, made to walk you through your own plate and help you start sorting this is mine from this was never mine. Go get it at thebelowthecircle.com.
Nothing has been wasted. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free.
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Scripture:
- Psalm 46:10 — “Cease striving, and know that I am God.” (NASB)
- Luke 10:41-42 — “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered by so many things; but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” (NASB)