If you’re the one everyone calls — the one who picks up, who shows up, who holds it together when everyone else is falling apart — this episode is for you.
We’re not going to diagnose why you do it. The people who call you love you, and every yes you have given was real. But love and need come down the same phone line, and after enough years it gets hard to tell which one is ringing.
This episode names the difference between being needed and being known — and then, before it ends, it gives you ten quiet seconds to find out that the ground holds.
This week’s reflection:
Who are you when no one needs anything from you?
In this episode:
(1:28) The hidden weight of being “the one” everyone calls
(4:10) “Does anybody really know me?”
(6:11) Dr. Phyllis reflects on years of always having her pager or phone on
(11:50) The difference between being needed and being known
(13:41) Why being known is not something you have to earn
(15:41) Mark 1:35-38 and Jesus stepping away from the crowd
(19:06) Psalm 139 and the truth that God already knows you
(21:02) You are not searching for something you have never had
(22:51) A guided “landing moment” to pause and simply be
(25:36) Deciding what is yours to carry and what is not
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Nothing has been wasted. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free.
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Scripture:
- Mark 1:35–38 focuses on Jesus stepping away from the crowd to pray and spend time with God, even when people were looking for Him.
- Psalm 139:1–4 reminds us that God already knows us fully, including our thoughts, our actions, and even the words we are going to speak.